The older I get the more I realize the value of privacy, of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in. As I am slowly learning the things that matter today, I thought of sharing with you one facet that certainly matters the most to me:
“You must find the courage to leave the table if respect is no longer served”
– Tene Edwards, Walk With Wings, 2017
Considering that health, in all its dimensions, is the essence of your journey of life, I think, it should be your priority of all time. I speak of body health and mental health – your body and soul. In a way, it could be right to say that the body achieves what the mind believes. No one is ever going to rescue you from yourself – your low self-esteem, your inner demons, your fears and weaknesses, your dissatisfaction of you and your life. Only you, self-love and good decisions will rescue you. Better start thinking now, about you then – your values, your goals, your dreams and most importantly, every soul that is around you that might have or might not have an influence on the way you pursue your journey.
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The human Soul
Starting with the words propitiously said by Brené Brown – a valued author who for the last two decades, studied courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy of the human being:
“what we don’t need in the midst of struggle is shame for being H U M A N.”
I once thought that I was invincible because I faced so much growing up and somehow nothing ever got really the best of me. However, as these words from Brené Brown resonated in my mind for the last couples of years, I came to the realization that I was completely wrong to think that and that she was right. I just got into a deeper lie of how happy I thought I was through the years… Based on this, a large fraction of the equation expressing my stability and peacefulness was the people around me. I had to overlook my entire circle to fully come to the consciousness of some wrong– toxic- relationships and patterns.
Here are two books you might want to read:
- Walk With Wings from Tene Edwards
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are from Brené Brown
You can be open, honest and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life. The sad truth shows that not everyone is there for suitable reasons. Unfortunately, the most loyal hearts are broken by betrayal.
More often, there are some people who causes more stress instead of letting you shine of all your light. One of the greatest example speaking for itself: nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities.
That does not mean you are not good enough or a bad person, it just means you choose you and you choose to respect yourself which also could mean your priorities. When you start seeing your worth, you’ll find it harder to stay around people who don’t. If someone doesn’t value you, it is because that person should lose you. It is as simple as that. In fact, self-love is the best middle finger of all time.
Lots of time, my younger self would feel oddly sad and some kind of guilt for being me or choosing myself wherein faced with a particular, yet aberrant situation or relationship. Nonetheless, I realize now, more than anything, that no one should ever feel bad for being a good person around the wrong people. Your behaviour says enough about you and their behaviour says enough about them. Here is a fact that everyone should remember; the sun never excuses itself for shining and neither should you.
“Albert Einstein said something that I really appreciate, and it reminds me also of what I like to think to myself: strive not to be a success, but rather to be a value”.
During this long journey of life, there will be a lot of people to like you but not all of them will value you. There is a huge difference between these two terms: being liked and being valued. As you try to please everyone along your path you lose the real you and forget to come back to it as a result of the “likes” instead of the “gratefulness”. Love is a choice, it is not some kind of metaphor or strange force that keeps yourself or your relationships together despite every bad curve during the course or direction of your destiny.
I guess the lesson here is to give yourself the same amount of care and attention you give others and watch yourself bloom.
With lots of love, -B