The art of wit – a practical guide to being witty

I have always admired witty people, for as long as I could remember, quick thinking and smart talking has been a skill combination I was dying to master. One could always dream I pertually told myself as I am naturally awfully shy and do not speak much, but for the past years, I have put a little more energy into honouring my wits. I have been a little more mindful of being articulate and only speak words of praise and intelligence. Studying the art of having a smart mouth requires having a smart communication skill tucked under a slice of confidence. It required culture and the ability to make connections easily. Surprisingly enough, the whole process was much more fun than I could ever have imagined. It is much of a game.

For the form …

The books 

There is no doubt that reading is your best ally in the case you want to upgrade your wits, being a quick access to new words, knowledge in a variety of styles and language, books are your best friends. I welcome you to download the books to read – the pdf list to have suggestions on every subject you could possibly be at advantage of knowing about.

Read out loud 

Weird but incredibly effective putting smart words in your mouth makes them roll out more easily once you want to use them, it improves syntax drastically and will help you practice the following suggestion. 

Practice Mindfulness of how you speak 

That goes for the tone,  the words, the pace at which you pronounce your sentences and the intonations you put on certain words. A big part of wits is in the way it comes out.

Learn storytelling

It requires you to know the purpose of your story. To understand the art of attention-grabbing openings is to know how to ensure people are listening, to follow up with strong past events that tap into emotions and to make it evolve through time – both present and past – is to guarantee a great story.  Use figures of speeches, module your tone, cross story chasm, make fun of yourself ( and no one else, keep it classy ). End the story with clarity and confidence whilst making a call to action. 

For the brains … 

Make connections

between unusual things. It helps to learn to think quickly. Try doing it in the form of a game, name everything in the room as quickly as one can, then make associations as funky as can. For example, a plant can become a micro jungle, or a Jumanji playground for ants. 

Use irony 

Irony states the opposite of a situation, used wisely, it makes one funny. 

Similar/ Dissimilar

The root of wit comes from connections between similar and dissimilar concepts, words and ideas. Try taking any concept and linking to one and another and go along with it practicing the associations of close and far concepts. 

For the character …

only speak praise of others 

If your opinion of someone or something is not stellar, find a beautiful way to say or counterbalance, use tact to state controversial elements of a discussion or to bring up something that might potentially be hurtful. Good heart and good character are the key values of a beautiful speech. 

Defend people when others are speaking wrongly of them

Be the Angel’s advocate in front of those who speak ill of others, do not let people be gossips. Be better. 

These are only a few pointers but wits are to practice as often as you speak, the perfect quip is always just a thought away, you will soon be able to exchange sharp banter in a conversation no matter with whom you sit. Wit is an utterly great skill to have in social situations just as much as when one needs to use leadership. Observe the greatest communicators both in your circle and outside, notice how their communication skill is a big part of their branding and of their character. Once, Jacqueline Kennedy said that style was not only the way you dressed but the books you read, the way you spoke, the music you listened to, etc. It is time to wear your wit as proudly as your prada. 

For what it’s worth, 

I believe in you 

xx Your Boldest Friend

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